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There is far too much unnecessary suffering going on related to the Bedwetting issues!
This is due to the general public misconceptions and misunderstanding of the issues! Now both parents/caregivers suffer because of well-meaning advice from adult/parents who have no experience on this issue, which leads to receiving bad advice and not getting proper support, they need!
Children getting teased and punish as a form correction to motivate them to do better. Now if they are not getting negative treatment from the parents/caregiver, they are getting negative comments from their friends as some kind of baby!
To ask a child to stop bedwetting is like asking an adult not to snore at night. Now if they are not aware, they are snoring how they are supposed to stop. Well, that is the same for bed-wetter’s. They are not lazy to get up. They just not aware of it.
We are in the business selling family incontinent products. However, we are passionate about the incontinent issues, which families and kids go through.
These images are disturbing for both parents and kids
Kids are devastated with daytime wetting accidents, which leaves them humiliated feeling others will only think they are some kind of baby.
Parents can be both upset and embarrassed with day accidents thinking others will question their parenting skills. Furthermore, they are upset knowing very well if their child went to the bathroom when asked. This would not have happened.
Please note – the rule for wearing protection (diapers & Pull-ups ®) in the daytime is the child must be consistently dry during the week and if not, protection is needed until they gain full time control.
The biggest fear that incontinent children have is being discovered, which would be absolutely devastating to them.
Every child wants to be respected and treated older than they are and to be discovered they feel they would be treated younger than they are like some kind of baby !
Now bedwetting in itself is not the problem. So far, as I know NO ONE ever died from Bedwetting. What is important is how it affects them, for it can last life!
Now when a bedwetting child feeling it necessary to keep this secrete. It will just reinforce his or her negative feeling about themselves by keeping this secret.
Parents need to make the child aware this is not their fault anymore that wearing glasses is anyone fault or an adult snoring at night. Now if an adult not aware of snoring. How are the supposed to stop if they are not aware of snoring? Well, same with a bedwetter. How they supposed to stop if they are not aware of it. Then further explain the need for protection to catch their accidents.
Every child wants to be respected and don't like being treated like a little kid. Especially don't like being told to go to the bathroom when they think, they don't have to go! So, therefore, quite often refuse to comply & later experience a wetting accident. Subsequently, later, when asked what happen, they then just say it not their fault it just happened!
Parents want their children to become independent. However, there is this constant balancing act between granting them the responsibility they want versus what they are capable of handling.
Parents try to give their child age appropriate responsibilities. However, their physical age may not correspond to their mental maturity level, which they are really functioning at.
The following are two different examples:
Now this little 12yr. old girl in the picture may be physically 12 yrs. 0ld. However, her mental maturity age may be functioning at 8 or 9yr old level where she has poor judgement and parent must be responsible for her when she cannot where parents must need to keep remind her to go to the bathroom on a timely manner.
Now this same little 12yr. old girl in the picture may be physically 12 yrs. old. However, her mental maturity age may be functioning at 14 or 15yr old level where they have good judgement and then, therefore, the parents do not have to provide this kind of support when to take a bathroom break.
Incontinent children require more maturity then their counterparts because in this example of 12yr old girl. You will find a non-incontinent child can take care of business quickly. However, and incontinent child knows they're more time required in changing incontinent protection. So, therefore, more time is needed to be allocated so therefore there is more advance planning is required when and where to change.
A 12yr old boy\girl who is a non-incontinent child can handle their hygiene successfully. However, a 12yr old boy\girl who has incontinent issues quite often will not be able to manage their hygiene successfully. This is because more maturity is required with managing their incontinence. Now what is required for an incontinent child to be successful in managing their own hygiene successfully. They need to change on a timely manner. So, therefore, have enough maturity and self-discipline not to put off changing and when changing not to skip any of the proper hygiene steps.
A while back, I had once in my Family Incontinent support group a 14yr old girl who was 24/7 tell me she does not need to clean up between changes because the dry diaper will absorb the urine.
Please note incontinent children are high maintenance, both meeting their physical needs and emotional needs. So, therefore, need more support from their parent's then non-incontinent children.
Kids like sleepovers. However, sometime don’t go because either, they are too afraid that their BIG secret will be discovered or their parents will not let them go in order to protect them from an embarrassing event!
Children who are incontinent go through more emotional issues than non-incontinent children. This is due to incontinent children are often treated differently by family and friends. These kids often feel belittled making them feel no better than a toddler. So, any reference to be treated younger than they are very sensitive to comments and tend to over react.
Although they will make an outburst, they are no baby. This does not negate the fact, deep down, they feel no better than a toddler wearing protection (diapers & Pull-ups ®) to catch their accidents.
Children who are incontinent often have a poor self-image of themselves, and feel a need to keep their BIG secret, which only reinforce his or her negative feeling about themselves by keeping this secret.
Please note bedwetting itself is not the important issue. Now what is important is how it affects their self-image, self-esteem and self-confidence!
Incontinent children need to be taught that their personal need to wear protection does not make them any less a person than one that has to wear glasses. Both help you function better in society! Furthermore, adults wear diapers and no adult thinks of themselves as babies wearing diapers. Just an adult wearing diapers to catch and hide their accidents.
Al protection (diapers & Pull-ups ®) is underwear, which what you wear under your cloths. Thus, the name, and diapers & Pull-ups ® are just absorbent underwear.
No child wants to be associated as baby. However, incontinent children who require day protection often feel no better than a baby and if up to them will wear no protection (diapers & Pull-ups ®)
Issues of needing of protection for the daytime become a bigger issue when the child day issues are not daily occurrences. Where there may be a dry one day and then the following day has 2 or 4 day wetting accidents.
Keeping a child healthy is the FIRST and biggest responsibility they have toward their son/daughter. Now relating to an incontinent child maintaining good hygiene is important keeping them health.
The rule for wearing protection in the daytime is a child must be consistently dry, and if they are not they need to wear protection until they gain day control.
Kids can be mean, and love making fun of other's expense! When a child who is incontinent gets teased it far more damaging, because their age is closer to a baby and therefore, is far more sensitive about being teased, they are a big baby!! Adults never feel wearing diapers that they are a baby and this needs to be pointed out to kids.
Bedwetting has a genetic component & scientist found Chromosome 22 was identified in 1995 for Nocturnal Enuresis and subsequent reports Chromosome 8, 12, & 16.
Chance of bedwetting increases in children when one of the parents was a bedwetter by 40% & if both parents, then it increases by 77%
Now the reason I bring this up now is because when you have a couple with an incontinent child and one of the parents never had this issue. You find they're usually disagreement on how to address raising their incontinent child.
There is so much misinformation and misunderstanding on this subject that the parent who never had this issue draws the wrong conclusion based on misinformation. The most common misconception they are just too lazy to get out of bed to go to the restroom, or they are doing it deliberately to get back at them making them do extra wash.
In general, the parent who never had this issue concludes this is just a behavioral issue and deals with this accordingly as they would with any misbehavior, or if they conclude they, just being irresponsible will also address the issue accordingly.
Children are like sponges and absorb everything said to them good or bad!
Like a computer, what you put into it is what you get out of it. Filling a child with a lot of negative comments about themselves does without a doubt affects their
Self-Image, Self-Esteem and Self-confidence!
So, if you're trying to motivate your child to do better with negative comments such as the following comments: You are too old to keep wetting the bed; You nothing but a big baby; You have to wear protection (diapers & Pull-ups ®) because you are a big baby; You want to stop wearing diapers then grow up and stop being a big baby; you no better than a toddler!
These negative comments don’t motivate your child, and all you are doing is affecting their Self-Image, Self-Esteem and Self-confidence! You’re only making things worse not better! These negative comments are only accomplishing destroying your child self-confidence. Which results from a can-do attitude. To, I can’t attitude and why even bother I can’t do anything about it anyway!!
If you in anger or frustration and have used these comments toward your kids. You have to ask yourself is your method working and if not, something needs to change!
Every parent and child want to get past this stage!
Don’t let your remedy of getting your child past this stage of bedwetting affect them for a life time in their self-Image, Self-Esteem & Self-Confidence!
Don’t let your remedy of getting your child past this stage of bedwetting be worse than the bedwetting issue in itself!
Raising an incontinent child from a Non-incontinent child can either be minor or major endeavor depending on the degree of incontinence the children in their care from just having Nocturnal Enuresis (Bedwetting) issues or Diurnal (Daytime time wetting) and or both.
Furthermore, not only the degree of child incontinence but also how well adjusted they are and compliant in following instructions.
Now if a parent is just dealing with a child with just bedwetting issues only can be minor if the child wears protection (diapers & Pull-ups ®) to bed and naps & car rides. However, can be more challenging if they don’t wear protection to bed, then the parents faced with a lot of extra work from washing child, bed sheet's blankets, etc.
It can be especially challenging if a child had experience secondary nocturnal enuresis SNE. (Child experienced after at least min. 6 mos. of being dry a recurrence occurred and started wetting once again).
The following came from our family Incontinent Support Group regarding a mother with her 14yr old son dealing secondary nocturnal enuresis (Bedwetting) she shared with the group her own trials and tribulation dealing with her son.
She found that his daily night accidents were not getting better and were time to do something about it, and it was time for him to wear protection (diapers & Pull-ups ®) to bed to keep him healthy and cut down on all the wash, she was faced everyday.
She tried most everything to get her son to comply on his own, without much luck and finally resorted to wait until he falls asleep and then diapers him. However, if he woke up in the middle of night, he would take it off, which resulted having a wet bed in the morning.
The following is an update she posted to the group:
Please note I changed her name to protect her privacy. However, you can find this posting if you chose to join our support group.
You might remember me talking about my bedwetting teenage son a while ago,
refusing to keep his diaper on at night. His bedwetting started to get out of
hand and he would refuse to wear a diaper because he thought it made him a baby which ended up with a very wet bed nearly every day. I tried grounding,
spanking, everything and nothing seemed to work. Recently hes been coming down from his room before dinner asking if i will put his diaper on for him and he keeps it on until the morning. Not sure if he suddenly got tired of waking up in a wet bed or is tired of me being angry at him all the time or what. Im just glad hes being grown up about the whole thing after months of fighting. I have a 16 year old nephew who has always been really cooperative about getting his protection on every night.
Well, you can see even if a child has only Nocturnal Enuresis (Bedwetting) it still can be very challenging.
Now if a parent has a child that has both having Nocturnal Enuresis (Bedwetting) and Diurnal (Daytime time wetting) this can be a major endeavor, because these kids are very high maintenance not only physically but also dealing with all their emotional issues.
Kids that are 24/7 have more emotional issues to deal with having to wear protection (diapers & Pull-ups ®) every day.
Kids are not physically little adults. They don’t rationalize well, and in fact, the frontal lobe where reasoning lies does not fully develop until their early 20s, and therefore, lack good reasoning powers and judgment.
What I find the most difficult to deal with for parents with incontinent children is the maturity issue, and especially if they are really immature for their age for this creates the greatest stress between parent and child; where you have a parent, who may have a child who has a physical age of 12 to 14. However, they are functioning like an 8 or 10yr old in age maturity.
Parents have certain expectation of a responsibility what a 13yr old should have and when they fail at it an act irresponsible like a 8 yr. old. Parents get upset and tell them to grow up.
Now a 13yr old that is functioning at a maturity age of 8yr old, which the parents recognize they are not yet capable of manage on their own. Feel now that they are a teenager they need no longer need any more support. Although it is obvious to the adult, they don’t possess the maturity and self-discipline to take care of themselves, which is perceived by the child, their parents don’t want them to grow up and are babying them and holding them back.
The parent does try to reason with them. However, because they don’t rationalize well they never seem to get it and leaving both still frustrated with the parents keeps offering the same explanation, and the child keeps rejecting it, simply because they don’t want to accept the outcome of their parent's decision because if they do recognize it and will make it difficult to get what they want.
Parenting is one, the most rewarding endeavor and I and at times the most frustrating deal with especial if your child is incontinent. However, I cannot think of anything we can do in life that is more important.
There is no real cure for bedwetting as of yet. There are programs that can speed up the process for some, and the reason I say some; because if it is due to an immature nervous system where there is not proper communication between the brain & bladder, and it does not matter what method, you use the result will be the same.
The word cure is not the really correct word to use regarding bedwetting for 90% is just delayed night control development, and 10% has a physical or physiological component.
Now no one looks at a child who is short in stature, and say they're something wrong with him, and we need to find a cure. Everyone knows there will be a growth spurt later when they enter puberty.
Now there are medications that you can use to address the symptoms but are not a cure, and they have side effects to consider.
There is Meds for Urge incontinence (Anticholinergics)
• Inhibit the involuntary contractions of the bladder
• Increase capacity of the bladder
• Delay the initial urge to void
With possible side affects
• Dry eyes (a particular problem for people who wear contact lenses; patients who wear contacts may wish to start with low doses of medication and gradually build up)
• Dry mouth
• Rapid heart rate
• Confusion, forgetfulness, and possible worsening of mental function, particularly in older people with dementia, such as those with Alzheimer's disease
• Hallucinations, possibly, especially for children and older adults; doctors should monitor patients for this symptom
There is also antidepressants that are prescribed by doctors to help with bedwetting and again there are side effects to be concerned with.
There are also synthetic hormones to help suppress the kidneys at night so it takes all night for the bladder to fill. However, only works if the child not producing enough of this hormone on their own.
Although we are in the business of selling incontinent products, we think taking medication for a growing child is not what should be done, and let nature take it course for 98% kids do outgrow it naturally!
So far as I know. NO ONE has died from bedwetting !
I wish I can give everyone a special pair of glasses to see all the kids and adult that need to wear protection (diapers & Pull-ups ®) because of incontinent issue.
There have been many studies on the occurrence of Nocturnal Enuresis (Bedwetting) and Diurnal (Daytime time wetting). The following is three different results:
4yrs. 1 studies 12.5% 2nd study 25%
5yrs. 1 studies 12.5% 2nd study 25% 3rd study 23%
8yrs. 1 studies 7.3% 2nd study 10% 3rd study 16%
10yrs.1 studies 5% 2nd study 8.5% 3rd study 12%
13yrs.1 studies 3% 2nd study 5% 3rd study 7.5%
15yrs 1 studies 1.8% 2nd study 2.5% 3rd study 6%
Adult 1 studies 1% 2nd study 2% 3rd study 3%
Personally I do not believe that these studies truly accurate due to the fact this is a closet subject that no one really wants to admit to it. I believe the rates are much higher!
Now what is better judge is actual sales on protection (diapers & Pull-ups ®) on sales on diapers in the United States are, which is as follows:
2015 5 billion in sales and 11 billion diapers sold in U.S.
2016 7 billion in sales and 15 billion diapers sold in U.S.
The break down on what was sold in the U.S. is as follows:
Incontinent diapers sales 80% children 20% adults in US
80% disposable diapers & 20% cloth diapers
There are 7,500,000 us kids between 6 and 18yrs of age with bedwetting issues.
Almost twice as many boys as girls wet the bed at night after age 5. By age 7 approximately 15--22% of boys wet the bed on a regular basis, while only 7--15% of girls that age wet the bed. However, more girls wet their pants during the day than boys
By the time a child reaches age 9 or 10yrs they are more affected by their incontinent issue and needing to wear protection (diapers & Pull-ups ®).
This certainly can affect them because they wake up feeling they have failed in some way. They start losing self-confidence, which can results in reduction in their ability to perform in school, and most all the fear that the bedwetting will be discovered by friends.
So, they keep this dark negative image of themselves secrete perpetuating this negative image of themselves no better than a baby. They often make excuses about staying overnight and going on camp outs, etc..
When a child grows beyond toddler stage and still wearing protection leads to parent being frustrated and irritated still have to deal with diapers when they should have outgrown this stage a long time ago!
Furthermore, parents of incontinent children having their parenting question and receiving bad advice from other adults/parents with non-incontinent children, due to the fact of their own misconceptions and miss understanding of the incontinent issues.
The Bedwetting issue for kids leads to severe embarrassment anger, frustration, and shame that lead often to self-image, self-esteem issues & self-confidence issues.
It is common to wait until a child “grows out” of bedwetting, but many parents may be surprised to learn that only 15% of bedwetting children will stop wetting on their own each year. Some of the main causes of bedwetting include genetics, high urine production during sleep, and a limited functional bladder capacity.
Only three in 100 children with primary nocturnal enuresis have a physical or urologic cause for it. Psychological problems as a cause of primary bedwetting are not common. Even children with emotional challenges can respond to treatment for bedwetting.
Thousands of parents are happy to find out that this is a common problem shared by 17% of children. This means at least 7 million children in this country suffer from this serious problem.
The problem with Bedwetting issues itself is not as important as how it affects a child, which can be a life time; which results in unnecessary suffering due to misunderstanding and misinformation on the subject from the child and from others not understanding the issue and addressing the issue based on flawed information.
Now if everyone could see all the other kids who deal with Nocturnal Enuresis (Bedwetting) and Diurnal (Daytime time wetting), that it would be obvious to everyone that Bedwetting issues are common as a common cold!